How I Determine A True Friend

"Being a friend is giving each other.. But, true friends.. Never!"

-B. A. Wirapati-

Everybody has their own way of determining their own true friends.. This tima.. I want to share about my own concept of true friend.. Friend is completely different than true friend.. It may look similar.. But, it has a significant differences for me..

In a relationship with friends.. There are mutual needs.. Between friends, there will be a 'giving each other'.. Each member of the friendship will give another member what he/she had and the other members would do the same.. There's an importance.. And when there's no importance between the members, the friendship will be disbanded..

But.. True Friend.. Is far more than just a mutual interaction.. One side doesn.t have to give something while others give something to be a true friend.. But.. True friend is always be with you, whether you're in advantages or disadvantages.. True friend never betray you..

When you're happy and success.. He/she will be happy for you..

When you found a wall blocking your way.. He/she will support you the best he/she can..

When you're facing a very bad situation.. He/she will be there to stand together with you..

When you make mistakes.. He/she will tell you about that..

When he/she makes mistakes to you.. He/she will apologize to you as soon as he/she found out that it's his/her fault..

When there's no importance anymore between you and him/her.. He/she will make you even more iportant for him/her..

True friend will never leave side.. No matter how bad your situation.. He/she doesn't wear masks in front of you.. True friend will always show you his/her true face.. When importance become the subject of the friendship.. Then.. He/she is not your true friend anymore..

No mutual interaction.. Never.. True friend never asks.. And will always be there to help without being asked..

Sometimes we don't realize that someone is our true friend.. There's no more valuable treasure in this world than a true friend.. You have to realize it.. You have to know who your true friend is.. And keep the treasure together..

Nothing {ersonal, No hard Feelings.

Smile Eternally,

Royben..

Greatness In Every Human Beings

"Be not afraid of greatness.. Some are born great.. Some achieve greatness.. And some have greatness thrust upon them.."

-Shakespeare-

Hi, guys.. This time.. I wanna talk about GREATNESS.. In Indonesian, It's also known as "keagungan"..

Whether you realized it or not.. Greatness is one of human's dream.. Every human strives and struggles to achieve it.. They wanna have have it.. They wanna live with it as their part of life..

But.. Unfortunately.. Some afraid of it.. Some people afraid of other people greatness and just give up on what they dream of.. Only because they think other people are far more superior in what they're searching for.. They fear them.. They fear their greatness.. Some other.. Think that they don't have greatness and will never achieve it no matter how hard they try.. Coz greatness will only come for some certain people who are special.. And they're just not one of them.. So they give up..

But, I believe.. Greatness is not a simple stuff that only some certain people who were born special.. It is far wider than we imagine.. It's complicated.. But, I believe that everybody has greatness written on their branches of destiny.. They just need to choose.. Being nobody.. Or being special..

There are three type of greatness..

First of all.. Some people are born great.. I imagine it as talent.. I believe everybody born with each of their own talents.. No one born without talents.. When one thinks that he has no talent at all.. He's just thinking on pesimistic ways.. Everybody has talents.. We just have to realize it.. It may sound easy.. But, it's not easy at all.. It needs a lot of confidence.. When we realize our talents and build it even more stronger.. I believe that greatness is within our reach..

Next.. Some achieve greatness.. You may not realize your true talents.. But.. You believe that when you work on something.. You can be even more better on it.. Train and train.. It needs hard work and dedication.. This may be the hardest way.. But, I believe for real.. That when you can't do nothing.. It is yourself that create the limitation.. Try to break your own wall.. Break the limitation.. Everybody can achieve greatness even without talents.. Only when they believe they can do it and put hard works on it..

The last one.. Some have greatness thrust upon them.. For me, it's like having somebody feeding you with greatness.. Well.. A simple example is the throne of kingdom.. The king is the one who have greatness thrust upon him from his late father, the late king.. But.. Not only king that can have greatness thrust upon them.. We, ordinary people can have greatness thrust upon us.. Like having a teacher that trust us.. The teacher that will give us knowledge or skills that we can use to reach greatness.. But, it's not that easy.. Coz, how we can make others thrust their greatness upon us is the challenge.. I don't have the answer.. But, I believe everybody can do it naturally..

Greatness is not something that we should fear.. We could reach our own greatness. All we have to do is try.. Th greatness is already there.. In our destiny.. Waiting for us the greet them.. Will just let them wait forever.. Or will you try to find them.. So their long wait will not be in vain.. It's your own choice.. Find your own destiny,, Live your own life..

You may have different views of GREATNESS.. Be not afraid to share with me.. I am curently seeking the truth.. So.. My writings is not officially truth for me.. I am open with your opinion.. Help me to find the truth of life..

Nothing Personal, No Hard Feelings..

Smile Eternally,

Royben..

Hands Held High..

Well.. This song inspire me a lot.. Try to read the lyrics.. It's very deep.. I have provided this blog with this song.. This song is the Background Music for this blog.. Read.. Listen.. Find the message..

Turn mymic up louder I got to say somethin.
Lightweights step it aside when we come in
Feel it in your chest, the syllables get pumpin
People on the street they panic and start running.
Words on loose leaf sheet complete coming.
I jump in my mind and summon the rhyme i'm dumping.
Healing the blind I promise to let the sun in
Sick of the dark ways we march to the drum and
Jump when they tell us that they wanna to see jumping.
Fuck that, I wanna see some fist pumping.
risk something,
take back what's yours
say something that you know they might attack you for
cause I'm sick of being treated like I have before
like it's stupid standing for what I'm standing for.
Like this war's really just a different brand of war.
Like it doesn't cater to rich and abandon poor.
Like they understand you in the back of the jet, when you
can't put gas in your tank, and these fuckers are
laughing their way to the bank, cashing the check
asking you to have compassion, have some respect
for a leader so nervous in an obvious way
Stuttering and mumbling for nightly news to replay
and the rest of the world watching at the end of the day
in the living room laughing like
what did he say?

Amen, Amen, Amen, Amen, Amen

In my living room watching, I am not laughing, Cause
when it gets tense I know what might happen
The world is cold, the bold men take action
have to react or get blown into fractions.
Ten years old, it's something to see, another
kid my age drug under a jeep,
taken and bound, and found later under a tree,
I wonder if he had thought the next one could be me

Do you see, the soldiers, they're out today they
Brush the dust from bulletproof vests away.
It's ironic, at times like this you pray,
but a bomb blew the mosque up yesterday.
There's bombs on the buses, bikes, roads,
inside your market,your shops, your clothes,
My dad, He's got a lot of fear I know
but enough pride inside not to let that show.
My brother had a book he would hold with pride
A little red cover with a broken spine.
On the back, he hand wrote a quote inside:
"when the rich wage war, it's the poor who die"
And meanwhile, the leader just talks away
Stuttering and mumbling for nightly news to replay
and the rest of the world watching at the end of the day
both scared and angry like
what did he say?

Amen, Amen, Amen, Amen, Amen

With hands held high into a sky so blue
as the ocean opens up to swallow you. (5x)

(The lyrics was taken from metrolyrics.com)

Well.. Tell me what you think..

Smile Eternally,
Royben..

The Destiny that Every Human Face

"Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice.. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.."

-William Jennings Bryan-

Well.. Try to think about that.. We, humans, understand that we live with destiny.. But, unfortunately.. Some people still believe that destiny is something that they can never change.. Something that already written since they were born in this world..

Well, that may be true.. But, if explore deeper about the destiny, there will be various interpretation about what is destiny and how can we find that destiny.. There may be thousands of interpretation about destiny out there..

Now.. I'll try to share my own opinion about the destiny.. I believe that there are several destinies for me or for every human beings that had already written since we were born.. But, I believe that some destiny can be change.. Well.. It may not be right to say 'change' for this thing.. I like to say 'alter' for destiny..

You may not change who your parents are.. Who your brother and sister are.. What your origins are.. That's some kind of the destiny that you will never change.. No matter how hard you try.. It is already fixed..

Well.. The destiny that I want to talk about is the destiny that we, humans, can alter.. It's about our live in the future.. Some people said that if they become poor, it is destiny who make them poor.. So, they think it will be useless to work for a living.. Coz, it had already written that they will be poor.. Or.. Some might think that someday their chance will come to be rich..

I quite disagree with that.. It is not chances that create your destiny.. Your choices.. It will create your destiny.. Sometimes in your live.. You will find that you have soe choices ahead to be chosen.. You may do something or you may do nothing.. What you choose there will bring you to your destiny.. Even if you do nothing.. It will bring you to your destiny.. Every choices creates different destiny.. Maybe.. Only by choosing to do nothing will make you success.. While if we choose to do something, we may end in failure that brings us so much disadvantages in life.. But, who knows what will happen next.. No matter how hard the choices.. It is a must for everybody to make desicion about how and where will you bring your own destiny..

Since chances is not ver essential for creating destiny.. So, we may assume that destiny will never come for you.. You must find that.. Destiny is not an easy thing.. Not a piece of cake.. To achieve some certain destinies.. You might even have to face hundreds or even thousands choices which means that you have face thousands of your destiny which you have create by your own desicion.. So.. Destiny is not merely a thing to be waited.. You have to achieve it.. You have to find it.. And you have to fight for it..

Every destiny will bring you to other destiny for you.. So.. It is necessary to make choices and desicion in evertime in your lifetime.. You choices will bring you to another choices and it will be like that until you find your last destiny.. The end of everybody's destiny.. which is DEATH..

Well, guyz.. That is what destiny means for me.. I believe that you have different opinion about it. Everybody has.. I'd like to share with you about it.. Since The Philosophy that Was Never Taught is not a blog to teach you, but it is a blog to find the truth of our life.. So, never doubt to share your mind.. Especially about this destiny.. Coz, it is very principal..

Nothing Personal, No Hard Feelings..
Smile Eternally,
ROyben..

A Little Announcement

Greetings, everybody!!!

Okay.. This chance.. I wil make an announcement.. A little announcement..
From now on.. I'll try to make English Post for this Blog.. This desicion was made due to my own idea of exploring and training my english skill and ability.. But, There may be Indonesian one if I think it'll be difficult to me and all of you..
That's all..
Be inspired by The Philosopher that Never Was..

Smile Eternally,
Royben..

The Miracle that Every Human Has..

"People always hoping for a miracle to come upon them.. While they don't realize that they're the miracle itself.."

Nah.. Smua orang pasti pernah berdoa mengharapkan keajaiban untuk datang ngebantuin mreka.. Ya gak?? Stiap ada ksulitan pasti lw minta banuan TUHAN YME buat ngebantuin lw dgn mendatangkan sesuatu yg disebut MIRACLE itu..

Itu tindakan yg luar biasa bagus.. Tapi banyak orang yg cuma minta keajaiban doank.. Tapi gak mau usaha.. Buat mreka.. Klo keajaiban itu dateng.. Gak perlu usaha pun tetp aja mreka berhasil.. Impossible, mamenk..

Itulah yg gw mksd dgn orang2 slalu mengharapkan keajaiban tanpa menyadari bahwa mereka sendirilah keajaiban itu.. Keajaiban itu akan datang klo mereka udahakan untuk dateng..

Kita sendiri adalah keajaiban yg diciptain TUHAN.. Keajaiban itu menunggu dalem diri kita untuk dipanggil kluar.. Kita cuma cuku[ percaya klo kita bisa melahirkan keajaiban ntu.. Kemudian berusaha untuk membangunkan keajaiban itu..

Karena itulah.. Jangan kaget klo lw2 pada yg dapet ujian mendadak tanpa persiapan trus trnyt dapet nilai bagus.. Itu karena lw gak menyesalkan knapa ujian itu dateng mendadak.. Lw ngadepin tiu dgn brani.. Dgn kepercayaan pnuh klo keajaiban akan mendukung lw klo lw ngeluarin smua kmampuan lw yg gak sberapa itu.. Itu adalah KEAJAIBAN..

Keajaiban hampir smuanya masuk akal.. Hmpr gak ada keajaiban yg gak masuk akal di dunia ini kcuali TUHAN berkehendak.. Tuhan YME pun slalu membuat keajaiban dengan proses2 yg ilmiah dan masuk akal..

Makanya.. Kita sbagai manusia harus sadar klo dalem diri kita.. Tertidur sbuah kekuatan yang luar biasa yg gak bisa ditandingi makhluk ciptaan TUHAN yg mana pun.. Kekuatan yg disebut KEAJAIBAN..

Realize that you born with miracle dwelled inside your heart.. Believe ini your potential.. Fight with all of your might.. And the MIRACLE will talk to you..

-Royben, The Philosopher That Never Was-

Grow Stronger.. And even more Stronger..

My Philosophy No. 1
"There's no limitations for human to grow stronger.. Unless, the human creates his/her own limitations.."

Begitulah kata-kata yang selalu menginspirasi hidup gw..

Sebenernya.. Manusia punya bakat untuk berkembang secara tak terbatas.. Tetapi, kenyataannya perkembangan kita yang selalu kita amati terbatas.. Ya ga??
Sebetulnya.. bukannya kita ga bisa berkembang lagi.. bukannya kita uda mencapai batasnya.. Tapi kita sendiri yang menciptakan batasan itu..

Kita bisa terus menjadi lebih kuat klo kita percaya bahwa kita bisa terus menjadi kuat.. Percaya klo kita bisa terus maju tanpa batas..
Intinya.. ancurin semua batasan lw.. Kukuhin hati lw..

Ada sebuah lirik lagu yang inspiring..
Terjemahan:
"If given a second, anyone can give up and run
So just keep on walking

There's something only you can do
So that this blue planet doesn't lose it's light

Seize the dreams you had!
Protect your beloved friends!
You can become stronger
Unknown power dwells in your heart,
when its fire is lit
Any wish, it's true
Will surely be granted...
show me your brave heart

Run faster than the wind!
Aim farther than the skies!
You can meet a new you
Unknown courage sleeps in your heart,
and when you realize
The downpour in your heart
Will surely stop...
show me your brave heart

Seize the bright tomorrow!
Protect the ones you love!
You can become stronger
Break that weak self!
Destroy the walls blocking you!
The warm beat of your heart will be your weapon
Believe in your heart "

"...Brave Heart, Digivolution Song of Digimon World"

Yup.. ancurin semua belenggu dalem diri lu yang menghalangi diri lu untuk berkembang.. Kumpulkan semua mimpi2 lu..
Run faster than the wind.. Aim farther than the sky..
Means that lu harus berusaha agar lu menembus segala batasan yang lu ciptain.. Lu harus terpacu untuk menjadi yang terbaik dari yang terbaik..
Lu musti tau klo sebenernya ada kekuatan yang sama sekali ga lu ketahui tertidur dalem diri lu.. dan lu musti tai klo ada suatu kekuatan yang luar biasa tersimpan jauh di dalem diri lu.. Saat lu menyadari semua itu.. Semua harapan lu akan menjadi kenyataan..

Untuk menembus semua batasan lu.. Lw butuh keberanian buat itu.. Sebuah keberanian yang tak terkira tersembunyi jauh di dalem hati lu.. Saat lu membangunkan semangat itu.. Ga ada yang mustahil buat lu..

You need to trust your feelings.. Your heart.. Coz heart is the source of all power.. Walaupun semua tulang lu uda patah.. klo hati lu ga patah.. lu masih bisa bertarung lagi.. Itulah manusia.. Saat mereka percaya pada hati mereka.. Siapa pun bisa mereka lawan.. Tak ada yang mustahil.. Klo lu percaya ma hati lu seperti lu percaya ma semua sahabat2 lu yang paling lu percayai.. Lu pasti bisa..

As a human.. it is a must for us to grow stronger.. We have to grow stronger to protect those that we love.. And there's no limitation to grow even more stronger.. You just have to show your brave heart.. Realize your infinite potentials.. and the most important is...
BELIEVE IN YOUR HEART..

-Royben Studdard, the Philosopher that Never Was-