Seen, but Unseen.. Part 2

This is the second part of the ‘Seen, but Unseem’ blog.. Last time we talked about weakness.. This time we talk about something else.. Something that really important for us.. The theme of this post is FRIENDSHIP.. Again, we will talk about true friend//

Like I’ve said before.. True friend is totally different with friend, the ordinary one.. With friends, you’ll have mutual interactions which will make you give something each other.. Importance is playing a great role there.. But, true friend doesn’t need mutual interactions... True friend doesn’t need importance to make his/her friend important..

We have problem to identify true friend.. We often identify true friends by looking at what they give to us.. The more they give us.. The more we thought he/she as a true friend.. That’s a false thinking.. True friend can’t be identified by what they give, but how they give..

Seen, but Unseen..

We smetimes falsely identified about true friend.. We falsely thought ordinary friend as ture friend, which worth of dying for.. We don’t know that true friend is in front of us, stand together with us, support us the best he/she can to help us stand.. We only saw those who give us more.. Not gove us the best he/she can..

Arrogance.. Again, it plays a great role to make us blind about true friend. We want to have great friends.. This might be our next basic dreams.. Friends that we can be proud of.. This makes us close our eyes with those who can only give us few.. We don’t want to know how best he/she give us.. We only care about the real action.. This is again a false thinking..Cuz, sometimes our true is not a great and perfect person.. But, at least he/she give the best he/she can with all of his/her capabilities.. That’s the true essence of true friends..

Your true friend is right there.. He/she lives with you with all the dreams and goals you have.. He/she may not give you much.. But, at least he/she gives you the best.. That’s much more important.. Only true friend will stay with you no matter what happen.. He/she will not easily betray you..

You really need true friend, cuz when everybody against you.. Only true friend will help you out of your trouble.. Realize it.. Your true friend is in front of you.. You have realize it and act the same as he/she does.. Cuz, true friend is the most valuable treasure in our life.. Take care of it..

Nothing personal, No Hard Feelings, No Offense,
Royben..

Seen, but Unseen.. Part 1

Hey, guyz! This time I want to talk about a phrase called ‘Seen, but Unseen’.. I managed to realize the meaning of this phrase after reading a comic named ‘Yu-Gi-Oh!’..Well.. This can mean two things.. I divide this post into two blogs, explaining each meaning of this phrase.. This is the first part.. And the theme is WEAKNESS..

You may have heard about Weakness.. Everybody has weakness.. Weakness is a contradiction of strength.. While strength gives you advantages, weakness gives you disadvantages.. Sometimes your strength cpuld cover your weakness.. But also, sometimes your weakness may cover your strength which will make you as if you’re incapable of doing something..

What troubled humans is how to identified our weakness.. Now this is the focus of my post.. The biggest weakness that humans have is.. WEAKNESS OF IDENTIFYING OUR WEAKNESS..

We have problem with identifying our weakness.. Most of us can’t make weakness analysis properly.. When you ask someone about his/her weakness.. He/she will said it with his/her filtered version.. Even when someone ask him/herself about his/her weakness.. He/she will identify only the weaknesses which he/she can accept it..

Seen.. But Unseen..

The weaknesses are right in front of us.. They live in our mind.. They roam in our heart.. We know that the weaknesses are ours.. But.. We don’t want to admit it.. No.. Even more.. We do not want to accept it.. We turn our face against it.. Trying to ignore it as if it’s not there.. As if we don’t know about it..

Arrogance.. It is the factor that makes us ignore our weaknesses.. We want to be strong.. We want to achieve greatness.. It’s everybody’s basic dreams.. We don’t want to know that those dreams can’t be reached by us.. We don’t want to appear weak in front of other people.. We just thought that weakness is the obstacle of gettting strong.. Part of it is true.. But, weakness is not an obstacle if you take it in a right wrong.. Those who can realize their weaknesses and accept it are those who have great opportunity of becoming strong.. Cuz, by identifying our weaknesses.. We can try to fix it.. Just like optimizing strengths.. We have to minimize weaknesses..

The key of this problem is courage.. Most of us fear of weakness.. We don’t have to be scared.. Weakness is the one which have to fear us.. We have the power.. Use your courage to identify your weakness and your strengths to fix them, not just cover them..

Be not afraid of weakness.. You’re the one who make it unseen.. So, open your eyes..
It is there.. You just have to be brave to admit it.. Only by identifying it, you can become stronger.. Cuz, only those who can admit their weaknesses can optimize their strengths..

Nothing Personal, No Hard Feelings, No Offense..
Royben..

How I Determine A True Friend

"Being a friend is giving each other.. But, true friends.. Never!"

-B. A. Wirapati-

Everybody has their own way of determining their own true friends.. This tima.. I want to share about my own concept of true friend.. Friend is completely different than true friend.. It may look similar.. But, it has a significant differences for me..

In a relationship with friends.. There are mutual needs.. Between friends, there will be a 'giving each other'.. Each member of the friendship will give another member what he/she had and the other members would do the same.. There's an importance.. And when there's no importance between the members, the friendship will be disbanded..

But.. True Friend.. Is far more than just a mutual interaction.. One side doesn.t have to give something while others give something to be a true friend.. But.. True friend is always be with you, whether you're in advantages or disadvantages.. True friend never betray you..

When you're happy and success.. He/she will be happy for you..

When you found a wall blocking your way.. He/she will support you the best he/she can..

When you're facing a very bad situation.. He/she will be there to stand together with you..

When you make mistakes.. He/she will tell you about that..

When he/she makes mistakes to you.. He/she will apologize to you as soon as he/she found out that it's his/her fault..

When there's no importance anymore between you and him/her.. He/she will make you even more iportant for him/her..

True friend will never leave side.. No matter how bad your situation.. He/she doesn't wear masks in front of you.. True friend will always show you his/her true face.. When importance become the subject of the friendship.. Then.. He/she is not your true friend anymore..

No mutual interaction.. Never.. True friend never asks.. And will always be there to help without being asked..

Sometimes we don't realize that someone is our true friend.. There's no more valuable treasure in this world than a true friend.. You have to realize it.. You have to know who your true friend is.. And keep the treasure together..

Nothing {ersonal, No hard Feelings.

Smile Eternally,

Royben..